Prior to speaking with your partner regarding divorce we recommend speaking to one of our professionals by booking a free, no obligation, consultation. The decisions you make today will have a huge impact on your future and how you proceed can many times, predict the outcome. Treat this time with the patience and care it deserves. Doing so will pay massive dividens for you and your future.
Below we have listed some things that can help immensely.
** Communicate your needs clearly and calmly. Let your spouse know what it is you need from them and why.
** Listen to your spouse’s needs and be open to compromise. Try to find a middle ground that both of you can agree on.
** Avoid attacking or blaming. Instead, try to focus on how you can work together to solve the problem. Having a professional step in can greatly improve the situation and help you move forward in the best possible way. This is the best investment you can make in your future as things do not change on their own. Action is needed.
** Ask questions. Asking questions can help you gain a better understanding of your spouse’s perspective and can help you both come to a resolution. It can be difficult to know what questions to ask and couples have different communication styles. A professional can help you resolve these issue so that you can find resolution and achieve the happiness you deserve.
** Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that bring you joy and peace and focus on your own well being so you can make decisions from a healthy place.
** When going through a divorce, it is important to talk to a trusted friend or family member that will listen without judgement. This can be a great source of comfort and support through the difficult times. Talking to someone who has gone through a divorce can provide invaluable advice and perspective.
Additionally, talking to someone who is close to you can help you to process your emotions, decisions, and potential outcomes. It can also help to provide a sense of connection, which can be especially important during a time of major life changes.
** Be careful sharing information. It is important to also be aware of the large amount of misinformation that is out there. Be mindful of who you share information with. During this time you need good advise and that can be hard to find.
If you don't love your spouse anymore, it's important to take a step back and honestly evaluate your feelings. Consider if there are any issues that need to be addressed in your relationship, and if so, have an honest discussion with your spouse about them. We urge you to get support as how you approach this situation matters. Many of us have not learned how to communicate in a way that we are heard by the other person.
Coaching can help you both work through any issues and learn healthy communication strategies. It can provide an impartial and safe space for couples to discuss their issues and feelings. It can provide guidance and support on how to work through difficult times, improve communication, and resolve differences. It can also provide an opportunity for couples to explore their needs and values, and develop better understanding and appreciation for each other.
Coaching can help couples to identify sources of stress and how to manage them, as well as how to develop healthier and more effective ways of interacting. Ultimately, coaching can help couples to make better decisions and to build a more loving and supportive relationship.
This can also be of a great benefit if you decide to divorce. It will make this transition go much more smoothly and alieviate any feelings of failure, guilt or shame knowing that you tried your best.
Get Professional Help If talking to your spouse doesn’t help, you could consider seeking professional help. A marriage counselor can help you and your partner identify problems in your relationship and find ways to improve it.
**Book your free, no obligation call today and we will be happy to help you come through this time stronger, happier and set up for a brighter future for you and your children.**