Divorce Readiness Quiz | The clean divorce

1. Do you understand the reasons for your divorce?

A - Yes, it is a huge step and I have thought long and hard about it.

B - My spouse and I are both unhappy in the relationship.

C - I have no clue, the decision was unexpected.

2. Since the divorce started, has the person who initiated the divorce given the other person time to let it sink in?

A - Yes, we have agreed to get help and explore allo of our options together.

B - No, we are moving forward immediately.

C - No, there are still feelings of shock.

3. Are you aware of how you have contributed to the breakdown of your relationship?

A - Yes, I have worked through all of it with a therapist.

B - I just know I want a divorce.

C - I haven’t had time to think about it yet.

4. Do you understand your legal options for divorce?

A - I understand and have been well informed. I am getting good support.

B - I’ll figure it out as I go along.

C - I have no idea and don’t know where to start.

5. Which of the following best describes your understanding of your financial situation now and after your divorce?

A - I have a well defined budget and have gotten advise from a financial professional.

B - I will figure it out. I am in charge of my own finances.

C - My spouse always handled the finances; I don’t have any access to our accounts.

6. Have you met with attorneys or mediators?

A - I am meeting with a number of attorneys to make sure I find the right one.

B - Yes, I’ve already paid the retainer for my attorney.

C - No, I haven’t started down this road yet.

7. Your legal representation is best described as:

A - Working for what is fair and reasonable – striving for the best possible outcome for my family.

B - Assertive and strategic, going for all I want.

C - I don’t know what my attorney’s approach is / I don’t have an attorney yet.

8. Which of the following describes you and your spouse’s communication thus far?

A - We seem to be communicating well, despite the situation / circumstance.

B - I have no intention of communicating unless through my attorney.

C - Our communications are so upsetting I avoid at all costs.

9. What is your ultimate goal for an outcome from your current situation?

A - The best possible outcome for my family.

B - I want to battle for as much as I can get.

C - I am so overwhelmed, I can’t see beyond today.

10. If you have children: What will co-parenting look like while in the midst of divorce?

A - This is a challenge, but we agree we need to make this as easy as possible for our children.

B - We already don’t see eye-to-eye when it comes to parenting.

C - With all these overwhelming emotions, I don’t know how I’ll be able to be a good parent.